People often assume that as a white female, I don’t have to deal with racism. And they’re right — I don’t.

This is an interesting look from “the other side”…a must read

Passion, caffeinated


Somebody recently told me that this picture, originally part of the #ITooAmWakeForest campaign (which you can find here:, was incorporated into an article somebody published on the website Total Sorority Move. I wasn’t able to track down the article myself, so it’s possible that it was moved or deleted. The sign I’m holding in the picture reads, “I’ve been asked: ‘Are you a transfer?’ ‘Are you albino?’ ‘Are you lonely?’ Because it’s ‘crazy’ I would want to join a black sorority instead of a white one.” Yes, I have really been asked those things at Wake Forest.

A year and a half after crossing Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. in spring 2013, it still strikes me as odd how much fascination and interest is generated simply by my membership in a historically black sorority. I knew long before I joined that I would receive a wide variety of responses…

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Tyra Takes on Weight Watchers : Week 2


Week 1

This week was my third weigh-in but my 2nd week (it’s a little confusing, but we start at week 0). I walked into the meeting really confident because I knew that I tracked all my food, made good food choices and worked out. I knew something was up with one of the leaders didn’t respond to what she saw on the computer. I gained 0.8 pounds, and without sounding overly dramatic I was devastated. I sat through the entire meeting on the verge of tears and trying to figure out what I did wrong. The leader of the meeting noticed that I was down and asked me how I was, then the water works came. I sobbed, boo-hooed and snotted for about 3 minutes before I was able to get myself together….she was really sweet, she sat down we talked about everything that I was doing (there were a few minor point issues 1. I was miscalculating sweet peas as zero points and for some reason I was given 1 extra point than I needed…. but like I said minor).

Then I apologized for crying because I was premenstrual… then she looked at me and said , “duh, well that it’s”…. we talked about how much I normally gain during this time (2 pounds) so .8 is a win. Looking back now I feel really silly for crying.

One of the reason that I think I started gaining weight was because the group that I was apart of drastically changed, weigh-in’s stopped and there was no more accountability, and I know that was a major reason for my success… so these weekly meetings are really important because they set the tone for the week and allow me to set weekly goals.

So after this meeting I am giving myself 6 weeks to make a change, but instead of setting my goals week to week, I need to start doing it day by day, some days will be good and some will be bad, and after today I can’t let the number on the scale ruin my day (I put my new weight in the WW app that this popped out). I’m better than what the number shows, now it’s time for me to believe it.

So, you gained a little bit this week.
Gaining is a normal part of the process and can happen for a lot of reasons.

Look back at this week and see what you might be able to change; then let go of what you can’t. The best thing to do is focus on is making this coming week a success. And feel free to ask your Leader for advice if you need it..

Good luck in the coming week.

So that’s what I need to do reflect, continue doing what works, and continue working on the things that don’t…hopefully I’ll see a positive change this week”



Until Next Time….

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Make It Count


Writing Prompt: You’ve been given the opportunity to send one message to one person you wouldn’t normally have access to (for example: the President. Kim Kardashian. A coffee grower in Ethiopia). Who’s the person you choose, and what’s the message?         (Similar Post)

Dear Dad,

I don’t know you, nor do I know anything about your life, but I wanted to send you a message to let you know that despite everything I’m okay; some would say that I’m thriving. And it might be time for you to do them same. It took me a long time to move pass the anger that I have towards you…. now I think that it’s time for you to let go of your guilt, if you don’t you will be miserable for the rest of you life. At the end of the day … we just all want to be happy…. maybe it’s time for you to learn how to do that for yourself; at the end of the day we only have one life to live no matter what we did in the past we have to make it count.


Your Daughter


Until Next Time….

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Ready, Set, Done


Writing Prompt: Our free-write is back by popular demand: today, write about anything — but you must write for exactly ten minutes, no more, no less.

Before we begin who thought that this was a good idea to do this again…..this was hard the first time… ugh!!

Ten Minutes is on the clock…

This week I started working out again, I am seriously determined to lose the remaining weight that I need to, but after working out for 3 days in a row and burning over 1000 calories I totally need to take a break today. I work up this morning tired and I got out of my beds and my legs felt like complete jelly, so I will be chilling out (while eating correctly and staying in my points range) while watching this fantastic Korean reality show called Roommate.

So since I’ll ne doing nothing to strenuous I’m sure that Tsuki will take the opportunity to cuddle and soak up all the love and affection she may may feel like she missed out since Saturday. Although this has nothing to do with anything I am seriously craving deep-dish pizza…. I swear cravings are the pits, but since I’ve already done my meal plans I will allow myself to have Pizza, French Fries and Sherbet on Saturday (they fall into my points range) Saturday can’t come here soon enough.

Now that I think about it I probably should have scheduled to have the pizza another day because my weigh-in day is on Sunday…. I’m hoping… REALLY hoping that the scale shows some movement. last week I was terrified that I gained some weight, I mentioned this in my Weigh Watchers post, but I never said why I felt that way…. I got on the scale at home and it showed that I had gained 4 pounds. Naturally I was seriously crushed and despite eating within my points range I had literally given up and prepared to see the WW scale reflect that so when the scale actually showed no movement. I WAS SHOCKED… and after my meetings I deiced that I was gonna make a real effort this week and I am NOT getting on scale unless it an official weigh –in.

Scales (when losing weight) are seriously the most soul crushing things every invented. I am in the process of relearning that I am more than just a number, the scale doesn’t always effect the work that I’m putting in… I have to repeat this each and every time I get on the scale otherwise I think I might go crazy…

If anyone missed my first free write here it is

Until Next Time….

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